I feel that it is pretty easy for me to make friends but it really depends on the setting. I have a hard time meeting someone and calling them a friend. I would consider these people associates. It would take me sometime of hanging out with them and feeling like I could trust them before I called them a friend. I would consider myself and outgoing person but I am very reserved in letting folks in my inner circle.
Friends? Hhhmmmm, I haven't had any friends in quite some time. I suffer from major depression and it really interferes with relating to people (including myself) in life. I'd like to have friends however I feel that I'll be misunderstood and I tend to have negative thoughts in terms of trusting people. Gossiping, wearing a "mask", keeping up with the competitiveness people engage in, I'd just as soon go without it. I have a few family members I talk to intimately but that's as far as it goes. Honestly I don't know if I know even how to have a friend, it's foreign to me!
It is very difficult for me to make friends! It wasn't always difficult, but as I've gotten older, it has become more of a challenge to have friends than an enjoyment! Not only is it difficult for me to make friends, but I find it hard to keep them too. When I do make a friend, it is seems as though I start feeling like the commitment is more of a hassle than anything else. I am afraid of what people might think or say about me, I have a hard time being social, I over extend myself to the point that I can't keep up after a short period of time, and I expect more from friends than what they seem to be willing to give. In the end, I end up shutting people out until they leave my alone. I don't like doing it, but I don't have the confidence and care free nature that I used to.
I think it can be difficult for me because I tend to have negative thoughts about no one liking me.
ReplyDeleteI feel that it is pretty easy for me to make friends but it really depends on the setting. I have a hard time meeting someone and calling them a friend. I would consider these people associates. It would take me sometime of hanging out with them and feeling like I could trust them before I called them a friend. I would consider myself and outgoing person but I am very reserved in letting folks in my inner circle.
ReplyDeleteI consider myself outgoing, but boy when I am meeting new people for the first time I feel like I am 10 years old again.
ReplyDeleteFunny thing is, I love people, I like getting to know them. I guess I just don't have enough confidenence.
Friends? Hhhmmmm, I haven't had any friends in quite some time. I suffer from major depression and it really interferes with relating to people (including myself) in life. I'd like to have friends however I feel that I'll be misunderstood and I tend to have negative thoughts in terms of trusting people. Gossiping, wearing a "mask", keeping up with the competitiveness people engage in, I'd just as soon go without it. I have a few family members I talk to intimately but that's as far as it goes. Honestly I don't know if I know even how to have a friend, it's foreign to me!
ReplyDeleteIt is very difficult for me to make friends! It wasn't always difficult, but as I've gotten older, it has become more of a challenge to have friends than an enjoyment! Not only is it difficult for me to make friends, but I find it hard to keep them too. When I do make a friend, it is seems as though I start feeling like the commitment is more of a hassle than anything else. I am afraid of what people might think or say about me, I have a hard time being social, I over extend myself to the point that I can't keep up after a short period of time, and I expect more from friends than what they seem to be willing to give. In the end, I end up shutting people out until they leave my alone. I don't like doing it, but I don't have the confidence and care free nature that I used to.
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